Mixed week this week which is why I am a little late posting this weeks blog, I just didn’t have the inclination to write and knew I would cry my way through it. I had a run of about 10 days where I felt really good and strong and there was no tears!!!!
then a bad day came and so did the tears
I missed my husband so much my heart ached, I would have done anything for a cuddle right then in that moment. I’m trying really hard to take all the advice I have been given from various sources this deployment and draw from it and put it into practice to see if I can influence my mindset and make it an easier experience for myself.
- Don’t let a bad day turn into a second bad day or a bad week. Draw a line and try again tomorrow
- Do something you love every day no matter how small
- Be kind to yourself
- If you can get out the house each day even to just walk to the shop
- Draw on your network be that family, friends, social networks
- Don’t wish the time away, still make memories and cherish the good days
Another thing I have been making myself do is count my blessings, deployment is hard, so so very hard in many ways. Elongated separation tests our relationships, it tests our emotions, it tests our resolve and it changes us but we can’t be sad for months on end of our very precious life can we over and over again? We really can’t.
I have been utterly blessed with the friends and family I have in my life, not many are locationally nearby but all are letting me know that they are right there to catch me when I wobble, putting dates in the diary to break the huge expanse of time up and being so kind and thoughtful.
OK so realistically not every single day am I thinking ‘I’m so lucky’ but the majority of the time I am trying to remind myself to count my blessings and look at the bigger picture in which I am pretty lucky. My family, friends and health.
Into week five, RnR is now confirmed which is a point in time to head for and today is a much better day than yesterday! I’ve been sent some lovely thoughtful gifts the last week or so which truly make the dark days easier.
Last week you may have seen that ITV News came to visit us to catch up, ITV came up Snowdon with us in 2011 and they want to see what had been achieved with Little Troopers since then. A really lovely news piece that made me reflect on how much really has been achieved, I’m really proud of the charity and the community that has formed. Watch the video HERE
Thank to everyone who is reading these blogs and getting in touch it really is proving that #sharingiscaring and we’re all in this together, you can also watch my daily Deployment Diary over on my Instagram
Lots of love, Louise xxxx