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Living in the land of Limbo

Hi, my name is Louise and I am currently living in Limbo, but
 I don’t like it and I’m not very good at it.
We had a tour start date of 10th Jan, got my head around this then it changed to later in the month. Right now we are in state limbo….the dictionary definition of this is: ‘an uncertain situation that you cannot control and in which there is no progress or improvement’ yup that is right where we are.
My husband is on leave before some pre-training, we still have some time to go so not completely in ‘he’s off tomorrow mode’ I have made some lists and tried to be a little organised but right now there is not much I can do other than…..SIT……AND………WAIT for D Day, not that I want deployment day to come but we are all waiting for it like the bloody number 4 bus.
We are totally skint because he’s off work at the moment and everyday its like “Shall we get a takeaway, I mean you are going away soon” “Shall we go out for lunch, we should spent time together because you go away soon” my waistline is increasing and my bank balance isn’t shrinking, its shrunk.
I am craving routine and normality and my body is telling me I am stressed….I have a raging stye in one eye, mouth ulcers and just feel a bit on edge. It absolutely isn’t that I want him to go away of course I don’t but we are all here just sat waiting for the inevitable and boy I know whats waiting for me…..those first two weeks of hell! I just feel like I’d like to just dig in and get that crappy first emotional little bit done and grab the deployment with both hands and for routine to prevail so I can get into my groove, you know?
I want to start ticking days off
As we had a bit more time before he goes we have a few more memory making bits booked in the diary…more deployment money we are spending before we even have started but still it IS important to make those memories prior to a deployment it just feels like its been for about three weeks we’ve been in this mode!
I am trying to relish this period for the little time we have left but it is exhausting, everything I say I feel like oh but he’s off soon, should I have said that? I don’t want to bicker, I want it to be perfect so my memory vision is perfect. Every time he holds my hand and it’s all warm I want to blink and add it to my minds memory box, every time I have a cuddle and hear his heartbeat I want to really etch it on my brain and every time we do something I want to take photos.
Perfect doesn’t exist, we all know that so a day at a time skidding through this weird limbo period. If you too have a deployment on the horizon, lets limbo together because I’m finding it pretty tricky and would welcome you on the ride with me!
Lots of love, Louise xxx

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About Louise

Louise herself served in the British Army and saw active service in Kosovo. Her husband is a serving soldier who has undertaken six operational tours of duty since their daughter was born in 2003. Louise is passionate about helping all the Little Troopers at home through the anxiety of deployment and also the stress of a long course or exercise having experienced first hand the impact it can have.

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